Surviving Mother’s Day and Father’s Day

Holidays, with their focus on family and children, can be emotionally challenging for individuals and couples experiencing fertility problems.  But Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are often especially difficult.  As celebrations of parenthood, they can be painful reminders of the child you yearn for.  For some, Mother’s Day and Father’s Day may also mark the passing of time – another year that’s gone by without being able to create a family.  The sense of isolation can often feel acute.  But a little preemptive planning can improve your ability to cope and make it through the day more easily.   Check-in With Yourself Think about how you’re emotionally handling your fertility journey right now and realize that this may be different [...]

2017-03-22T16:14:31+00:00May 1st, 2017|Myths & Merriment|

Strengthening the Support You Provide and Receive From Your Partner During Your Infertility Journey

Infertility and the accompanying treatment is emotionally, physically, and financially stressful and often experienced as a source of distress.  While individual responses vary, feelings of anger, sadness, guilt, shame, and anxiety are common.  Over time, self-esteem may plummet, social relationships can falter, and one’s sense of femininity or masculinity may be affected.  Yet infertility is not just an individual trauma, the strain on a couple’s relationship can be profound.  Although many couples ultimately feel their infertility journey has drawn them closer together, at times they still grapple with feeling alone and isolated in their desperation.  Because each member of the couple is dealing with this significant life crisis in her or his own way, they may not be aware of [...]

2017-03-22T16:15:00+00:00April 15th, 2017|Support & coping|

Coping With Inappropriate Comments, Questions, and Suggestions

Whether you’ve been open about your struggles with infertility or have only told a handful of close family members or friends, at some point you’ve likely received well-intentioned, but unsupportive comments or questions from others.  It may have happened when you were at a party having an otherwise enjoyable conversation with someone you hadn’t met before and they suddenly ask the question, “So, when are you planning to start a family?”  Perhaps you just confided in a friend about how long you’ve been trying to conceive and they responded, “Just relax and it will happen,” “Have you ever considered adoption,” or “At least you’re having fun trying.”  Maybe there’s a parent, sibling, or friend who you’ve always counted on to [...]

2017-03-22T16:15:29+00:00April 1st, 2017|Support & coping|